The problem is your secrets. You refuse to share. You deny the world you. For me I like to be around people who are familiar in environments that feel familiar. So I find my like. In this comfortable group I feel free to be me and share everything I know. I give they too all give back in multiples. By helping them I help myself. By being the best I can give doing what needs to be done and enjoying it a privilege. Caring for each other is what life is all about and to create a world of peace requires peaceful beings and to that end sharing is what it's all about.  You can't be equals and not be equals.